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Emotional Affairs


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When is it cheating if there's no sex or physical contact? Welcome to the murky world of emotional cheating. Cristen and Caroline confront its warning signs, hallmarks and social media minefield.

Episode Sources:

"5 major signs he's cheating on you -- emotionally, at least" http://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/relationships/advice/a21442/signs-of-an-emotional-affair/

"Could you be having an emotional affair?" http://www.oprah.com/omagazine/emotional-affairs-recognizing-and-coping-with-emotional-infidelity

"12 warning signs that it's emotional infidelity -- and not 'just friendship'" http://blogs.psychcentral.com/relationships/2012/07/12-warning-signs-that-its-emotional-infidelity-and-not-just-friendship/

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"Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved" https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en

Academic Insights:

"Effects of sex, sexual orientation, infidelity expectations, and love on distress related to emotional and sexual infidelity." Olivia Leeker and Al Carlozzi. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy. Vol. 40, Iss. 1. Pages 68-91. January 2014. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1752-0606.2012.00331.x/abstract

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"Upset over sexual versus emotional infidelity among gay, lesbian, bisexual and heterosexual adults." David A. Frederick and Melissa R. Fales. Archives of Sexual Behavior. Vol. 45, Iss. 1. Pages 175-191. January 2016. http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007%2Fs10508-014-0409-9

"Using modern technology to keep in touch with back burners: An investment model analysis." Jason L. Dibble and Michelle Drouin. Computers in Human Behavior. Vol. 34. Pages 96-100. May 2014. http://opus.ipfw.edu/psych_facpubs/123/

Topics in this Podcast: relationships, sex, marriage, affairs