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Lesbian Bed Death

The term "lesbian bed death" has become a persistent negative stereotype about the allegedly passionless sex lives of women in relationships with women. Cristen and Caroline revisit the phrase's origin, do some sexytimes mythbusting and call for a broader definition of sex.

Episode sources:

"Human Sexuality: An Encyclopedia. Routledge.

"'I feel like I die more every day': The 'bed death' of sexless marriage is real, and it's heartbreaking." Salon.

"Married, and Sexless, With Children." Slate.

"Modern Arrangements: American Couples." The New York Times.

"Moving Beyond 'Lesbian Bed Death' and Bridging the Libido Gap." Autostraddle.

"The Truth About 'Lesbian Bed Death': It's Complicated." Good Therapy.

"Why Do Lesbians Have More Orgasms Than Straight Women?" Psychology Today.

Academic insights:

"Beyond Lesbian Bed Death: Enhancing Our Understanding of the Sexuality of Sexual-Minority Women in Relationships." Jacqueline N. Cohen and E. Sandra Byers. Journal of Sex Research. 2014.

"Can less be more? Comparing duration vs. frequency of sexual encounters in same-sex and mixed-sex relationships." Karen L. Blair and Caroline F. Pukal. The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality.

"Variation in Orgasm Occurrence by Sexual Orientation in a Sample of U.S. Singles." Garcia, Justin R. et al. The Journal of Sexual Medicine. 2014.

Topics in this Podcast: relationships, sex, lesbians

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