Lesbian Bed Death


The term "lesbian bed death" has become a persistent negative stereotype about the allegedly passionless sex lives of women in relationships with women. Cristen and Caroline revisit the phrase's origin, do some sexytimes mythbusting and call for a broader definition of sex.

Episode sources:

"Human Sexuality: An Encyclopedia. Routledge. https://books.google.com/books?id=UHymAgAAQBAJ&printsec=frontcover#v=onepage&q&f=false

"'I feel like I die more every day': The 'bed death' of sexless marriage is real, and it's heartbreaking." Salon. http://www.salon.com/2015/04/16/i_feel_like_i_die_more_every_day_the_bed_death_of_sexless_marriage_is_real_and_its_heartbreaking/

"Married, and Sexless, With Children." Slate. http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2015/01/togetherness_on_hbo_an_honest_depiction_of_marital_sex_by_mark_and_jay_duplass.html

"Modern Arrangements: American Couples." The New York Times. http://www.nytimes.com/1983/10/23/books/modern-arrangements.html?pagewanted=all

"Moving Beyond 'Lesbian Bed Death' and Bridging the Libido Gap." Autostraddle. http://www.autostraddle.com/moving-beyond-lesbian-bed-death-and-bridging-the-libido-gap-216151/

"The Truth About 'Lesbian Bed Death': It's Complicated." Good Therapy. http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/truth-about-lesbian-bed-death-its-complicated-1210134

"Why Do Lesbians Have More Orgasms Than Straight Women?" Psychology Today. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-third-wave/201602/why-do-lesbians-have-more-orgasms-straight-women

Academic insights:

"Beyond Lesbian Bed Death: Enhancing Our Understanding of the Sexuality of Sexual-Minority Women in Relationships." Jacqueline N. Cohen and E. Sandra Byers. Journal of Sex Research. 2014. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23924274

"Can less be more? Comparing duration vs. frequency of sexual encounters in same-sex and mixed-sex relationships." Karen L. Blair and Caroline F. Pukal. The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality. http://www.utpjournals.press/doi/abs/10.3138/cjhs.2393

"Variation in Orgasm Occurrence by Sexual Orientation in a Sample of U.S. Singles." Garcia, Justin R. et al. The Journal of Sexual Medicine. 2014. http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/jsm.12669/abstract

Topics in this Podcast: relationships, sex, lesbians