When Molly and I talked about whether chivalry is still relevant in today's society, a seemingly superficial, yet perplexing question arose: Who pays on a first date?
Heterosexual dating customs say the guy should be ready to whip out the wallet, but isn't that a little antiquated?
Perhaps, but a 2007 Salon interview with famed anthropologist Helen Fisher indicates that heteros might be biologically "hard-wired" for this fiscal arrangement, rather than just tethered to outmoded courting rituals.
She says that anthropology dictates that the fellows ought to be ready to pony up.
Fisher goes on to explain:
But Fisher adds that in her personal dating experience, she'll split the bill with a man until she's ready to move their relationship to the next step -- and let him pay. Again, is this let-the-guy-pay principle an example of modern women kowtowing to rigid gender roles that designates the man as the provider and the woman as the caregiver? Or, when we play tug of war with the check, are we simply fighting our evolutionary past?
Surveys say more women are asserting their earning power and splitting the first date tab. A March survey found more than half of British woman are going Dutch these days. And there's a gender-blind way to get around this quandary as well: whoever initiates the date picks up the tab. Simple as that.