Are women bigger whiners?


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After a long, tough day, sometimes all you want to do is blow off steam by complaining. But is venting worth the emotional toll that getting trapped in a negativity spiral can take? Cristen and Caroline discuss the pros and cons of complaining and dissect why women are stereotyped as nags.

Episode Sources:

"What it's like to go without complaining for a month" http://www.fastcompany.com/3042951/how-to-be-a-success-at-everything/what-its-like-to-go-without-complaining-for-a-month

"Do you complain too much? (or not enough?)" http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/do-you-complain-too-much

"Stop nagging!" http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Stop-Nagging

"How to stop nagging" http://www.webmd.com/women/features/stop-nagging

"For a nation of whiners, therapists try tough love" http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702304192704577404083592261456

"Complaining, for your health" http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2015/02/complaining-for-your-health/385041/

"Why do we say women nag but men request?" https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201310/why-do-we-say-women-nag-men-request

"Men work longer, women complain more: Survey" http://www.cnbc.com/2015/06/29/women-feel-more-burned-out-at-work-survey.html

"Do you complain too much?" http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/health/wellness/advice/a16986/stop-complaining/

"Constant complaining: Does it serve us well?" http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/health/wellness/advice/a16986/stop-complaining/

"How to deal with chronic complainers" https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201107/how-deal-chronic-complainers

Academic Insights:

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"Murder, gender and the media: Narratives of dangerous love." Jane Monckton Smith. Palgrave Macmillan. 2012. https://books.google.com/books?id=eEoURn9Y2zsC&printsec=frontcover&source=gbs_ge_summary_r&cad=0#v=onepage&q&f=false

"Nursing home complaints: Who's complaining and what's gender got to do with it?" PD Allen et al. Journal of Gerontological Social Work. Vol. 47, No. 1-2. 2006. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16901879

"Humorous complaining." A. Peter McGraw et al. Journal of Consumer Research. Vol. 41. February 2015. http://leeds-faculty.colorado.edu/mcgrawp/pdf/mcgraw.warren.kan.inpress.pdf