The Gay Best Friend


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Pop culture tells us gay men and straight women make the best of friends, but why? Cristen and Caroline dissect the sociology, culture and evolutionary psychology of these relationships to figure out whether these presumed besties are a product of nature or nurture.

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"Male Closeness: Do We Need It?" http://www.out.com/entertainment/interviews/2014/05/27/male-closeness-gay-straight-bromance-jason-cicci

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Academic Insights:

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Topics in this Podcast: pop culture, television, lgbt, friendship, stereotypes, gender differences