Couple Speak


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Couples with cutesy pet names and intimate code language may be nauseating, but research finds those are signs of a healthy relationship. Cristen and Caroline parse out the particulars of how and why couple-speak happens.

Episode Sources:

"The Language of Great Couples" http://www.womenshealthmag.com/fitness/relationship-advice-bond-with-your-guy

"Why do couples use pet names? The secret language of relationship-speak, explained" http://www.bustle.com/articles/62906-why-do-couples-use-pet-names-the-secret-language-of-relationship-speak-explained

"The language that lovers share is a 'window' into the state of their relationship" http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/science-news/8041587/The-language-that-lovers-share-is-a-window-into-the-state-of-their-relationship.html

"Science says these 5 things happen to couples who have been together a long time" http://www.businessinsider.com/couples-have-a-shared-mind-2015-5

"The baest bae to ever bae: Bae isn't just a noun anymore" http://www.slate.com/blogs/lexicon_valley/2015/01/22/that_s_so_bae_not_just_a_noun_anymore_here_s_how_bae_gets_used_as_a_verb.html

"Bae watch: The ascent of a new pet name" https://www.visualthesaurus.com/cm/dictionary/bae-watch-the-ascent-of-a-new-pet-name/

"Now that white people have declared 'bae' over, black people can use it in peace" http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/jan/14/white-people-declared-bae-over-black-people-can-use-it

"Thinking alike changes how we speak" http://www.rochester.edu/newscenter/thinking-alike-changes-the-conversation-103682/

"Dugon, Haus You Dinkin, Du-Ah" http://www.slate.com/articles/life/twins/2011/08/dugon_haus_you_dinikin_duah.html

"The real reason why couples use baby talk" https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201312/the-real-reason-why-couples-use-baby-talk

Academic Insights:

"Language style matching predicts relationship initiation and stability." Molly E. Ireland et al. http://faculty.wcas.northwestern.edu/eli-finkel/documents/InPress_IrelandSlatcherEastwickScissorsFinkelPennebaker_PSci.pdf

"On phonetic convergence during conversation." Jennifer S. Pardo. The Journal of the Acoustical Society of America. Vol. 119, No. 4. April 2006. http://www.researchgate.net/publication/7138084_On_phonetic_convergence_during_conversation

"Emotional contagion." Elaine Hatfield et al. Current Directions in Psychological Science. 1993. http://www.elainehatfield.com/ch50.pdf

Topics in this Podcast: dating, relationships, love